Hi, dearest reader! Glad you can be here today.
Today I am writing about a rather sensitive subject for me. This blog is to show the world what INFJs are like behind their walls, though, so I will not hold back.
To put it simply, I am very hard on myself. Like many of my INFJ traits, this is both one of my greatest strengths and one of my greatest weaknesses. On the positive side, it drives me to be the best I possibly can, because I set high standards for myself. It allows me to excel in the things I do, not just pass by doing the bare minimum. On the not-so-positive side, I am cruel to myself whenever I make a mistake.
Although I am very able to forgive others for their mistakes, many times I do not allow myself that same grace. I feel like I “know better”, and therefore should not be allowed to make any errors. Don’t get me wrong, reflecting on mistakes is a great thing– in moderation. Acting too carelessly or beating yourself up too much when you mess up are both very bad things, however.
I tend to gravitate toward doing the latter of those two choices. When I let someone down or hurt their feelings, it’s hard for me to deal with, because my intentions are never malicious. I will lie awake in bed, replaying the situation and every possible way I could have avoided making that mistake. I am my own worst critic.
But you know what? Learning to forgive yourself is just as important as learning to forgive others. It’s something I try to improve on every day. Deep down, I know my intentions are good, and I am quick to forgive others for the hurtful actions they commit against me. So why can’t I allow the same kind of forgiveness for myself? That is not to say I will not feel remorse when I do something wrong, I just want to be able to look at the situation in a more constructive way. I want to be able to learn from my mistakes. I want to be able to move on and be a better person because of my experiences, not just be shackled to my past. Because of this, I am trying to take it a little easier on myself while still continuing to strive for greatness. Again, balance is what I truly seek– I hope that one day I will be able to find it.
Are you guys critical on yourselves too? I would love to hear what you have to say in the comments section. Talk to you all soon!
Seize the day!
21 October 2016 10:10 AM