Hello, dearest reader!
Today I will reflect on a question I ask myself every day. When, if ever, will I find the one?
I will admit that I am young, and I have time to figure these things out, but I am scared nonetheless. I see some acquaintances that are able to bounce from significant other to significant other with ease, and then I look at myself. I’ve never dated anyone before, despite my confidence in being able to take care of other people’s feelings, despite many people telling me I deserve someone that will treat me right.
So I do what I always do, and that’s ask a bunch of questions. Self-reflection (and in some cases, self-pity) is the INFJ way. Why are other people able to find significant others so easily, even when they have a reputation of treating people horribly? When will someone actually be interested in me instead of saying they hope I find someone else? And the scariest question yet: Will I have to settle?
Relationships are hard. There are so many factors that go into compatibility and everything has to be just right. I think my first challenge is that my personality type comprises less than 1% of the population. The simple fact is most people are not going to be on the same wavelength as me. In fact, the only two girls I’ve been truly in love with (beyond infatuation) were the only two INFJs I’ve met in my life– go figure.
I just wish I could meet myself from a girl’s perspective, ya know? So I can see the way I act and the signals I give off. I wonder if I’m aloof or too emotionally intense.
I don’t wan’t to be alone for the rest of my life, but I feel like settling for someone that I don’t truly love would cause me even more pain. But then again, I can be so perfectionistic I don’t know if I can be completely satisfied. I dunno. Although I still have plenty of time to meet people, I can’t help but wonder when my time will come.
What are all of your experiences about the idea of soulmates? I would love to read your stories in the comments section. Talk to you all soon!
Seize the day!
1 November 2016 6:26 PM